For those folks that live where snow is normal…our snow day will sound silly. But, we never see it, let alone take pics in it so today was special. Of course it did not stick and was short lived…but it was awesome while it was here!
Sometimes you need just enough of something to appreciate it and capture the memory, but fully accepting this area cannot handle anything more than some flakes!
I started Camp Gladiator boot camps at the start of the pandemic. With virtual teaching, home schooling, parenting, and staying at home…I just needed something for me. It started virtually then I moved over to in-person. It has been a great way to self care, connect with others, and improve my health all while setting goals and working to achieve them. Especially, when we started the foster care process, I needed something about me and to not let my frustrations explode. So 100 check ins was a huge deal celebrating discipline and sticking with something even when things got busy. January you get the workouts for free so sign up and join us online!
As we restart our adoption journey, but this time through foster care, one major difference is all the courses available online. We lose the community…we loved our adoption community and still keep in touch with those families…but learning in your pajamas is pretty awesome too. In fact, doing the courses online is one of the big reasons the fire was lit to start. I learned today even CPR was online so that is pretty amazing also! I say all this to say if you have been praying about adoption then now is the time!
On another note, Happy Law Enforcement Day!
The biggest reason my husband got out of police work, is we adopted our son. Now we had a baby to care for and working nights, weekends, holidays just would not work anymore. He struggled that he was missing all the good stuff needing to sleep so he could go to work. He also realized the reality that he could be hurt or killed while on the job and there were other things he could do…so he resigned and started a new career.
Staying married while doing that job was hard, so I will always have respect for those that serve others and risk their lives for strangers.
I have some friends going through the adoption process and I hate to say it, but when they ask how it is my first words are “really hard”. It takes a lot of time, paperwork, classes, background checks, videos, meetings and so many questions!! I think what makes it harder is you know you are doing a good thing so why so many obstacles? Also compared to giving birth, you have to prove yourself as a parent. Even 8 years later, the thing I remember most is how hard it ended up being.
The thing is you have no control. The timing, the person, the process…it is out of your hands. A lot of praying and trusting that others are looking out for you. But in the end…it is so worth it! When you meet your child and it all makes sense…adoption is the best gift from God!
One of our best blessings is our adoption is open! I posted this pic today and the first person to like it was his birth mom. Love we can keep up in this way and she can share in these moments with me. If God has put on your heart to adopt…go for it! No one I have met has ever regretted it!
2020 was the year of being stuck. It even shows it in the numbers…not going up, not going down…stuck with two of the same numbers: 2020. Stuck at home, stuck out of the gym, stuck out of the bar…stuck without family. Stuck!
So here we are in 2021 and I would like to believe this is the year of moving forward, making progress taking the next step…it is even in the numbers as well. What comes after 20? 21! Turning a new year does not magically change things in our lives, but it gives us new hope and new vision and I pray that for all reading this, 2021 gives you more of the good stuff.
I pray it gives more opportunities, more clarity and more more promise of the good things yet to come. For me, that is more therapy in the areas I need to develop new habits and mindsets; More working out and putting into my body the fuel that sustains. More quality time with the relationships that feed what is good, noble, honest and true. Finally, more falling in love with my Creator and King. More knowing who He is and how He created me to serve Him.
The year of 2020 had great purpose in our stuckness…but 2021 is of great significance too! No accident the numbers fall in line in an order of progression. It is time…progress is waiting!
2020 was the year our trauma was exposed. The year we had a moment to step back and see what God was seeing. Busyness. Greed. Selfishness. Chasing after the wind to gain power, success, money…but losing family, health and righteousness.
2021 can be the year to repair what the trauma exposed. Relationships with family, clarity in our mission, a new way of doing things. A greater focus on what matters and what you really “need” to thrive. God’s way is simple, but costs us everything. God’s way brings life.
2021 is the year of new habits. New mindsets that 2020 revealed are needed. Mindsets of humility, grace, health, knowledge of God’s word, seeing trials as a process for change.
This year starts some new healthy habits that will be game changers.
1. Reading the entire Bible. God gives us direct access to Him and I am taking advantage of it.
2. Changing what I put into my body. More water specifically.
3. Discipline through CG workouts. Build muscle, grow lung strength, push yourself mentally and encourage others around you. Take an hour for yourself to take care of your body and grow your mental toughness.
4. Choosing family and quality relationships while putting down the things that keep us from it. My FB friends do not fulfill me more than family.
5. Financial freedom. Stop using things to buy happiness. Get out of debt .
I struggle being generous because I fear not paying bills, but the truth is I am spending all my money on things for myself to make me happier. Time to stop.
This year is the year to make changes needed now that God has my attention.
Covid hit the educational world hard. Overnight, learning moved to the virtual world and the stability of the classroom was gone. I never knew how traumatic it was until summer hit and I rested. My body and mind were exhausted.
Returning in person has had challenges, but there is some consistency in our routines, face to face checkins and the smiles and connection to keep us all going. We were required to take Trauma Informed Care for staff development and I needed it!
I needed to learn to take care of myself. I needed the reminder to have empathy for those still in virtual learning. I need to rely on my coworkers more. I need to speak up when I am struggling. Thankful for Crandall ISD that cares about our mental health and gives us time to learn more about the trauma we have all experienced.
I love sports, but always trusted sports to be played with some competition and desire to win. I have questioned losing on purpose, but never thought it really existed…just coincidence or bad luck. Until Sunday night when I watched the Eagles lost to Washington and it can only be explained as a purposeful loss. I am not a sports analyst and will not pretend to be, but it bothered me for a lot of reasons…
1. If Cowboys had won, then their game would have determined our playoff chance. I cared about our Cowboy loss because I thought it meant something. Choosing to lose affects more than just one team.
2. It impacts money, salaries, gambling, predictions…it adds a what-if to any game that I never thought really had to be questioned. People lost money over a decision made before the first whistle.
3. Disappointing to the fans who really care..who buy tickets, jerseys and wear the colors with pride. Hard to think that some losses would be determined before the game starts.
4. Just bad for sports and integrity in general. I want to teach my students that you play hard no matter what, show good sportmanship, leave it all on the field…watching paid athletes and specifically coaches not do that is a shame and I never thought I would really see it.
To me, be all in or all out. If you were not winning then say that from the beginning so that I could have cared less about the Cowboys win since it did not matter. In short…be all in or do not even try.
Disclaimer: the coach stands by it was not an intentional loss, but watching the game…no way those bad choices were on purpose. I hope the NFL puts some things in place that saves the integrity of the league and keeps this from happening or that the Eagles do a better job of not letting it look so obvious.
This pic kinda defines our lives. We do not watch a lot of tv, but the tv is mostly on while we are home. I have discovered we use it for background noise more than anything…but want to know what is mostly on? Sports.
Always a game. Baseball or football mostly, but basketball or soccer too. We just like games and my husband likes wrestling too, but he hates when I share that. If there is a show, it is usually a rerun of Friends or the Office or some show that I call “comfort shows”. I also like Hallmark movies and reality shows when I can handle the conflict.
So now that we have entered this phase in life where people are cutting cable…we often ask ourselves, should we jump on this train? Obviously cost is a factor but so is comfort. We want to be able to watch Rangers baseball, Mavericks basketball, and Longhorn and Cowboys football anytime we want. We can live without the shows, but not the sports. So for our 150 a month…not sure where we stand when what we have now is convenient and can be viewed on a tv in multiple rooms…maybe we just need to submit that we will save in other places, but for now we are cable people despite it being the untrendy thing to be.
One thing that does push my buttons is this new trend of a million different subscriptions to watch the show of your choice. Hulu, HBO max, Peacock, Apple TV, Netflix…seems like rather than cable with all the shows you now need 10 different providers to watch your one show..it kinda feels like cable with a twist and it makes me nervous. I feel like my shows are being held ransom for more money!
Whatever 2021 may bring…maybe it is the year to ask ourselves honestly “To cable or not to cable?”
I love my spouse, but how we each show and receive love is very different. I am a quality time girl. Love to me is snuggles on the couch, date nights, sleeping in late, vacations to the beach. In short: time!
My husband is very different. He is Acts of Service. Love to him is work. He likes a clean house, a chore that needs to be done, working on a project together to get it done faster. Productivity and progress makes his day! So clearly we are different, so how do we make it work?
Step 1 is recognizing how the other receives love and doing it graciously. This is hard for me since I like to be comfortable and lazy. Step 2 is accepting just because we are giving, does not mean the other is receiving. I am on Cloud 9 on a date night, but he might be feeling nothing so I have to remember though my love tank is full…he still has room to be filled which means I have to be intentional about showing love even after a great night.
It is hard when two languages are so different but worth it when the marriage is working and growing. The question I have to keep asking is “Am I giving as much as I am receiving?” If I can honestly answer no then time to get to work!