Sadly, I have noticed I am switching my time to other things that do not involve Facebook, but are also not any better. For instance, I posted my first tweet today. Why? I don’t know-I just wanted to express a thought and it was there…it was favorited by the way, but that should not matter. Weirdly, another reason is it is another opportunity to be known..even if it is for your one liners or short thoughts…it is like you are heard. The reality is who cares what I think or do…Twitter seems so much better for famous people. Anyway, in all of this the hubs and I got into an argument as he pointed out that it is not about what I am using the phone for it is about the phone is keeping me from spending time with him and the family.
That was a shocker. I took this whole thing to be about use your time more wisely. Get up and clean something, read a book, cook a dish, fix an appliance…never thought it was “hang out with me more”. Seems to me I am on my phone the most when he is not here, so why does he care except he comes home to a dirty house…but tonight he confessed that it was more about it is a distraction from him and our son and he wants it to be more about spending more time together. Blew my mind…all this time I thought it was more about him disliking a bad habit and wanting to get rid of it because it would make me better. It changes everything that it is more about spending more time with him. I am a quality time Love Language girl so more time with my husband is always a good thing…I just always thought that his idea of more time meant I was being put to work because I was in trouble. It never occurred to me that my midday nap was being selfish. I also never thought it was a bad thing for him to do his thing and me to do mine as long as we come back at night and snuggle. Never knew that he felt disconnect in all that while I was feeling our marriage is great that we are building up each other’s personal interests. I see it now…did not see it then. I always thought we spend a lot of time together anyway. Not sure how this will all work out, but I have 26 more days to figure it out.
The good news is: Keep praying for healing in the marriage. FB might have been the catalyst for the disagreement, but it addresses several issues that need to be addressed. Praying to use these days to really search my soul and connect with God’s will for my life and how I can use my gifts to serve Him better and serve my marriage better.