If you cannot tell, I am off for the week and finally get to catch up on some writing! The more and more I read Jen Hatmaker, the more I realize being a writer would be my dream job even though teaching is pretty amazing, too!
I digress. Nathan and I celebrated TEN years on November 6th! TEN, people! If you don’t know our story, scroll back into my files because I have shared the details there…but here is the short version. We married as eager and God fearing whipper snappers (years 1-2), got lost along the way (I take most of the blame), were separated for TWO years–yes lived apart for a year and lived together angrily for a year (years 3-4)- had divorce papers printed and ready to go, God changed my heart then eventually changed his heart (years 4-5), miracles of all miracles we stayed together and years 6-10 have been 100 times better than the first five even though the first five had some great memories too. I say all that to say the two years of TOUGH times are so worth the remaining (Lord willing) 20 plus that we get to share happily.
During those years 6-10 we endured a medical diagnosis of Lupus, infertility, eventually adopted and are now raising a toddler together. We say over and over, we needed to have those rough years to make us stronger for our future and now we are in this thing together and rooted in the Lord. Callen is a blessing from that and reaps the benefits. God prepared us for the future generation that will carry on our legacy. I do not regret those rebuilding years because it made our marriage stronger, but I also recognize our story is rare because most couples that endure all that we endured do not survive. The forgiveness is tough, the waiting is tougher and a divorce would have been way easier (we stayed together because of the dogs) 🙂 . Amazing though how God can change your heart and put a mercy beyond all understanding. We now get to share our story with others and be a rock for couples that need to know it does not have to be perfect to be strong.
We celebrated with another half marathon in Vegas and have a few more plans up our sleeve to celebrate the BIG 1-0!!
The good news is: WE made it!! We were so busy that neither one of us received an anniversary card or gift, but we have a toddler that is currently reprimanding the dog “Sit down, Izzy” to show for it. He is the true benefactor and the reason God needed to knock us down to rebuild us anew.
I love yall, short and sweet I know but its true.. And its the best way to describe how I look up to you both and am so amazed and where you are today. Happy TEN!!
Thank you Jen! You have been there from the beginning in my Santa boxers 🙂