When Nathan and I met 12 years ago, I tossed up the idea of one day adopting and he immediately shot it down. I never thought I would ever be in the position to need to adopt; I just always thought it was a beautiful thing. I grew up in a home where we took in foster kids, I always enjoyed helping in church ministry with youth in the Dallas area and I have always had a weak spot for adorable African American boys…I have never shied away from the idea of adoption. However, my husband had a different view and I understood and just prayed his heart would change if the time ever called for it.
Advance ten years later and HE is the one pursuing adoption vigorously despite my many concerns. He was the one who felt led in his heart to abandon fertility treatments and adopt. To him, it was God’s plan for our family and he went forward full force. Throughout the process, he was the rock. Despite a rocky beginning, God changed his heart and Nathan is the best father. Nathan will play with him like a best buddy-they play ball, chase, run, build with blocks, wrestle, cook in the kitchen etc. He teaches him high five, fist bump, “achoo”, slam dunks, show me your muscles etc. They sing songs, read books, take walks, go for swims, and even play with a baby doll or animal now and then. He is very hands on, he is the fun one and he is the one that seems to teach him the new things. Callen adores him and looks up to him and can’t get enough of him.
Nathan stays home with him up three days a week and is his sole care taker while I am at work. Nathan works nights and will wake up early to be there for his swim class. We go to all of his appointments together. He never misses anything Callen is involved in even if it means Nathan gets no sleep. Nathan works extra jobs so that he can have nice clothes, shoes or go on vacation or fun outings. Nathan is the man of all men and an amazing dad. We never consider Callen to be adopted; in fact we forget about it most of the time…he is our son. But when I stop to consider, Nathan’s complete devotion and our complete surrender to this boy that we work hard so that he will inherit ALL that we have…it is our goal that every need is secure and that college and other opportunities are covered. We work to give it all to him someday-and he does not have our genes or blood-God chose him to be our son. Adoption is a beautiful thing and it mirrors Christ’s love for us as his adopted children.
I fall in love with Nathan more watching him as a father. Devoted, loyal, responsible and sacrificial. It makes me cringe for those stories of dads not wanting to be involved because Nathan would not have it any other way. I never knew about his fatherly skills when I married him, but I now I see God did well to bring us together. He has never regretted not having a biological child because he was destined to be the dad to this one.
The good news is: Callen hit the daddy jackpot. He is learning so much from him including character, godliness, how to pray, how to lead, how to be physically fit and how to serve others. He is learning how to care for ladies and love his mother. Callen is learning how to be a good husband and firm father. I am so proud of the man my husband is to me, but most importantly to him. He is willing to take on more than half of the role and step up whenever I need him without fail. Two thumbs up for dad!