Been There…Done That!


I have had a full morning communicating with other women that have had infertility struggles or have adopted a child.  I know whenever we are plagued with worries and doubts we should go straight to God rather then stress about it or even seek advice from others.  I fail at that all the time.  I talk about it, get others opinions, dwell on it until I finally realize I should pray about it then let it go. Wasted time thinking I could solve it.  However I am reminded of the Bible verse 2 Corinthians 1:4

He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are
troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.

Today, I have needed these godly women to encourage me and comfort me.  So thankful that they were willing to read and respond (I messaged them instead of calling).  I even messaged the wrong person with a long list of questions by accident…can’t wait until she opens that email up!  Wish I could figure out how to take back an email before they read it.

I watched a commercial about retirement and there was a man saying how excited he was when he had grandkids because he knew a piece of him would still be here when he left.  It made me think about infertilitiy and adoption and how it is a struggle.  I am 100% committed and excited to be part of this journey, but the reality is that the emotions involved are challenging.  The birthmom struggles with an unplanned pregnancy; wanting was is best for the child.  The adoptive parents struggle with the loss of having biological children and her loss in giving them this gift.  All families are affected as well either in loss or gain as new families are created. It’s a decision for a lifetime, but I do believe God knows what he is doing.  Families are created on much more than blood…they are created in love.  I think of how much I love my husband and would die for him, but realize he looks nothing like me and his blood is not my blood.  Love never fails.

Infertility and adoption existed even in biblical times.  He placed those stories to inspire, encourage and remind us that He knows.  There are a whole lot of “what ifs” and “hope nots” that can occur, but I have been here before in my marriage.  What I learned is that: God will provide.  He will give light to each new step as I get there, but never before the time is right.  He is preparing me daily for the highlights and hardships that are sure to come.  I have to take it day by day.  I can look back to remember, but then need to turn around and move forward.

The good news: He is trustworthy.  He has provided me the Bible for scriptures of encouragement and placed people in my life when I need it.  I have a supportive husband that prays with me and for us.  I am not alone. God’s got my back!

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